Having Trouble with Chores or Even Bad Behavior?
I did, and it is a work in progress every day. As a Mom I think we all hit a certain point and we ache for some advise, some course of action to help get our kids to help more around the house with out making it some End of the World Drama. I won’t even go in to the trouble I am having with my to older ones and their constant fighting. I have had enough, I needed something to entice them to help more, fight less, and I needed help.
So I did some Pintrist searching and after following a behavior chart that I had found which had them move up and down with a point system, with very little luck as a long term solution. I needed to revamp it for my kiddo’s. So I am here today to share with you what I came up with.
This Behavior and Chore Chart System is a big blessing in our house. Is it not perfect, not by a long shot, but it is working very well.
Having Trouble with Chores or Even Bad Behavior?
I did, and it is a work in progress every day. As a Mom I think we all hit a certain point and we ache for some advise, some course of action to help get our kids to help more around the house with out making it some End of the World Drama. I won’t even go in to the trouble I am having with my to older ones and their constant fighting. I have had enough, I needed something to entice them to help more, fight less, and I needed help.
So I did some Pintrist searching and after following a behavior chart that I had found which had them move up and down with a point system, with very little luck as a long term solution. I needed to revamp it for my kiddo’s. So I am here today to share with you what I came up with.
This Behavior and Chore Chart System is a big blessing in our house. Is it not perfect, not by a long shot, but it is working very well.
What I did was take One Room with every thing that needed to be done in it and assigned points to each chore. Some are worth 10 but most are 5 points. Trust me, it adds up fast. The pictures above just show a couple of the rooms. I have Living room and Family rooms, Bedrooms, Kitchen and Dining rooms, Office and or Library, Laundry room, Pantry, Bathroom, and Hallway and Stairs.
I also have a card with extra chores. For me I have Pull weeds, each min of pulling weeds is 1 point. Clean the door knobs of the whole house, read for 20 min for 10 points, and Help clean the car. I also have for our house music practice points. Each time my Son practices his Violin for 30 min he gets 10 points. Gets him doing something he needs to do any way and he still feels rewarded by getting bonus points.
Now, to help with the bad behavior that my kiddo’s have had of late, I minus points for certain behaviors. A couple of examples are Not listening and fighting minus 5 points. Another one is Lying to us. I can’t stand this so it is one of our big minuses. If they tell us they lied before we find out they get less taken away, but if we find out first then it is even more. We have not had any more lying because of this. One more I will share is Bad words and hurtful words to family members. That one is a work in progress with siblings.
Behaviors will change in each home as to what is not okay and what is. That is Okay, as long as you can be consistent.
I also think you should reward for good behavior as well. So if the kids are cought doing good things they will get points added.
Now for the big and so simple reward for why this system works in my home. They get to spend their points on two different things. the first is 1 point for 1 minute of electronics. that could be computer, t.v. or tablet time. The next one that they can spend their points on may seem low to some but for me it is a compromise. They can spend the points on 1 point for $0.01. So if they have a 100 points they get $1.00. For me it is a compromise because I don’t really think my kids should get an allowance. I feed them, cloth them, cook for them, and many more things that come from being a mother and a parent. Yes I asked for it, I wanted it with all my heart, but I am also a human being who needs help as well. And like I said before the points add up fast. If they did every thing I asked during the day in chores they could easily walk away with $5.00 each. Now I have two kids old enough to help with these chores. My 3 year old is struggling with learning that she needs to help, especially as a third child because older siblings could do it for her.
The day will come were the kids walk away with only a couple dollars each but I am sure as they get older I will need to revamp in adding and taking away some things to this system.
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